I was watching the local news, and a reporter was interviewing people who were in line to buy lotto tickets. The line was especially long since the jackpot was way over 20 million.
The question was if you won all that money how would your life change? Several people said they would help friends and relatives. Others said they would tell the boss to take this job and shove it.
Of course, some people wanted to take that dream vacation without pinching pennies, or buy their dream house without working two jobs to make the down payment.
Now, we interrupt this pipe dream and return to the real world. Winning the lotto is not very likely, but it is always fun to give it a shot.
Why are so many people unhappy with their lives? You may be stressed at work, stressed at home, and once you sit down to pay your bills, you feel like you’re barely making ends meet.
As a life coach, clients would tell me they were unhappy but didn’t know what to do about it. Here are three questions to ask yourself when your life is not working:
What’s Bothering You?
You may have to go deep, and this is where a journal can be a big help. Find a quiet place where you can sit comfortably and not be disturbed. If you have trouble getting started, just write “I am unhappy and I’m not sure why.” Keep writing this same line until ideas start flowing, and write it all down. This can be a painful process, but don’t let that stop you.
What Changes Can You Make?
Change is usually possible, but be prepared to leave your comfort zone. For example, if your job is getting on your last nerve, is it time to move on, or is it possible to improve your situation?
Perhaps you could job share with a friend, or ask to change to another shift. Pick a quiet time of day to talk to your boss about your concerns. Don’t get angry, or put the blame on other employees. Offer to put in overtime if needed.
What Are You Willing to Accept?
In order for things to get better, you may need to take some extra training to get that promotion. Are you willing to drive across town to take some classes, or will you be too exhausted after a hard day at work and a grueling commute?
Can you tolerate a bad boss until you can change to your dream job? Life can get very uncomfortable in the meantime, so be prepared.
Life is full of ups and downs, and things seem to be constantly changing. Like I said before, change can be uncomfortable, but when you start living your dream life it will be all worth it.