I read a lot of self-help articles online, and more times than not, I agree with what’s written. However, I read something recently that made me sit up and take notice.
One of the online gurus was answering a reader question. Let me set the scene for this. A man said that he wanted to get into a better paying job, but with six kids did it really make sense for him to leave a secure job with all those hungry mouths to feed? What if he lost his job in the process?
This was the guru’s reply: No, he should stay right where he is and pat himself on the back for a job well done. He didn’t need to go for his dream job, and should just be thankful for what he has.
Excuse me? That is one piece of crummy advice. This is my response to the guru: Why don’t YOU stay right where you are, and let this man go for his dreams?
Let me be the guru today and I will tell you how I would have handled this question.
Should He Seek a Better Paying Job?
Yes, yes, yes! If he wants to seek a better job, he should start looking. Just remember that this is a process that doesn’t happen overnight. He may choose to keep his old job in the meantime. He may need to take classes or training that he’ll need to pay for.
Six Hungry Mouths to Feed
This is where a family meeting might solve a lot of problems. Of course no one will go hungry, but you can save a lot of money at the grocery store. When your finances are tight, big pots of soup go a long way. It’s also a good time to learn some new cooking skills and how to use cheaper cuts of meat.
Of course you can kick junk foods such as Pop-Tarts, ™ sugar sweetened cereals, cookies, candies, and sodas to the curb.
Everyone needs to be onboard with his decision, and not whining that they don’t have their favorite foods to munch on, and generally being a pain in the neck.
What If He Lost His Job?
Let’s face it, losing a job is something that sends your stress meter into overdrive, but it doesn’t have to be the end of the world. If he has an emergency fund this would be the time to use it, and that might be enough to tide him over until he starts a new job.
So many people don’t have emergency funds, and then you have to get creative. He might have to take a side job such as delivering newspapers, starting a lawn care business, or going through a temp agency.
In a pinch, he can ask family or friends for a loan. This should be a last resort, but if it’s going to help him to survive while he’s pursuing his dream job, then he’ll have to put on a brave face and do it.
Most people are not living their dreams because it’s not convenient. Are you willing to drive across town to take a class when your favorite football game is on? Are you willing to give up dinners at restaurants to save money and cook at home?
Don’t ever let anyone tell you that you have to stay stuck in your life, and forget about your dreams. Set your goals, and start putting things into place and once you realize your dreams, it will all be worth it.