This is a sad fact of life, but if you try anything new, friends, family, and even strangers may try to rain on your parade by criticizing what you’re trying to accomplish. Of course they think they are helping, and saving you from making a ton of mistakes, and embarrassing yourself.
It’s hard to know how to react, and there are many ways you could handle this problem. If you express your anger, you run the risk of hurt feelings, but it is hard to sit on the sidelines and do nothing when you feel like your goals are being unfairly criticized. Here are five ways to deal with negative people:
Don’t Take It Personally
There will always be critics and that’s just part of human nature. What is important is how you react, and you don’t want negativity to derail the goals you have set for yourself. They may be having a bad day, or they’re just frustrated because they are trying to improve their lives, and what they’re doing isn’t working.
Renew Your Motivation
Remember,just because people criticize you doesn’t mean that you’re not on track to reach your goals. This is the time to get super motivated and dig in deeper. Make a to-do list and stick to it. Make sure you are setting an appropriate amount of time aside to get things done and keep moving forward.
Find the Positive Takeaway
You may find that your critics have some good advice along with the negative, so filter out the negative and try out some of the good ideas. This can really help you because it could be something you would not have thought of, and it can be just what you need at the right time.
Don’t Hang Out With Negative People
This can get a little tricky because if the critics are family members you live with, it may not be financially possible for you to have your own living space. One positive thing you could do is to reach a compromise between you and the offending family member. You will be open to suggestions, and he can provide more encouragement.
Make New Friends
You may find that your critics can’t be silenced, and the things you enjoyed as friends are no longer possible. There are plenty of places to meet new friends, and you can look for groups that are related to your goals and join them. Join a gym and meet new people while you’re toning up your body.
If you own your own business, go to a Chamber of Commerce meeting. Lunch is served, which is always a good thing, and you’ll get a chance to share what you’re doing, and it’s just a great way to meet people from all walks of life.
In the end, you can only live your own life, and you don’t have time to waste with naysayers. Take a sheet of paper or a computer spreadsheet and write down all your goals and review them every day. You may be surprised how quickly your goals become a reality.